{"id":147,"date":"2012-01-31T12:00:05","date_gmt":"2012-01-31T16:00:05","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/blog.stellamortis.com\/?p=147"},"modified":"2012-01-30T21:38:24","modified_gmt":"2012-01-31T01:38:24","slug":"solitude-and-support","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/blog.stellamortis.com\/?p=147","title":{"rendered":"Solitude and Support"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Writing is very solitary. \u00a0 I have to be able to shut out the world if I want to be able to get the words down.<\/p>\n<p>This is quite easy to do at work, during lunch. \u00a0The office is pretty quiet, and when people do talk, it&#8217;s usually a low murmur. \u00a0If I&#8217;m writing well, even the loud talkers fade into the background.<\/p>\n<p>At home, I&#8217;m lucky. \u00a0I have my own room to go to when I write, and I can choose to write in silence or listening to music. \u00a0And when the door is closed, I don&#8217;t get bothered without a knock first. \u00a0Except for the cats. \u00a0They see the closed door as a challenge and lean all their weight on it to push it open-which is every time they try because the door doesn&#8217;t properly latch.<\/p>\n<p>But at the same time, I don&#8217;t try to write much in the bedroom because Rob&#8217;s always there. \u00a0He doesn&#8217;t always realize, but he has a habit of talking over his shoulder. \u00a0I don&#8217;t know if he&#8217;s talking to me or not, and if I try to listen to music and write, I end up pulling out the earbuds often and get little done. (Maybe that&#8217;s why I&#8217;d stopped trying to write in the evenings.)<\/p>\n<p>Even though I shut myself away for so long to write, I think I&#8217;d go a bit crazy without the support system. \u00a0Both Rob and his mom leave me alone to write, which is incredibly helpful because it means I have long, uninterrupted stretches of time where I can get so much written.<\/p>\n<p>And any time that I get stuck, or can&#8217;t quite figure out what needs to happen, or need any sort of help, I go and talk it through with Rob.<\/p>\n<p>He also has this annoying habit of saying things like &#8220;Did you write anything?&#8221; and &#8220;You&#8217;re overthingking it, just write.&#8221; \u00a0But the one I hear most often is &#8220;Finish the book.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>I&#8217;m also part of a small writing forum-very small, maybe ten active members-that&#8217;s helpful in pushing to get words written.<\/p>\n<p>The downside of being so solitary is that sometimes it&#8217;s too easy to get involved in watching TV or movies, or reading books or websites. \u00a0There&#8217;s no one looking over my shoulder telling me to pick up the pen and write, just my own mind. \u00a0Until I go into the bedroom to talk to Rob.<\/p>\n<p>And on occasion, he&#8217;s told me &#8220;You won&#8217;t get anything written, so you might as well play a game.&#8221; \u00a0Sometimes, I give in. \u00a0Other times, though mores with exercise, I can get myself to do what I need to. \u00a0Quite often this works better with the exercise than the writing, but I&#8217;m working on it.<\/p>\n<p>Baby steps&#8211;a little improvement until it builds into a run.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Writing is very solitary. \u00a0 I have to be able to shut out the world if I want to be able to get the words down. 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